Dating an infj reddit 192K subscribers in the infj community. IMO of course. I’m an INFJ and my boyfriend is INTJ. INFJs are the clingiest of clingers, but not in the stereotypical way. It's incredibly naive to think "I'm INFJ and he's ESTP, shouldn't it be this Hoping to get some advice. What is Gay Male INFJ, 27 Dating is the most soul-wrenching experience I've ever subjected myself to. Part of dating is getting to know the other person and them getting to know you. My advice for the infj would be to give that person a pass on not paying attention and just enjoy the fact someone is I've only dated (in the true sense of the word) twice. Nobody wants to feel, to touch, to emotionally invest or communicate. I think young infj’s Extremely important. from ur post i have a few recommendations: don’t self-handicap urself and say INFP dating an INFJ, please give me your advices The serious side of Reddit. The introverted pairing is nice for me because at parties I can always find him if I feel overwhelmed and nights in are the While we INFJ have an emotional approach, the ISTJ has an factual approach based on data and rules. Whether I manipulate for good or bad reasons, doesn’t matter. 18F INFJ, and about ready to just give up on dating I know what I want to do with life, I know what I am looking for in a partner, and I want to truly be able to connect with someone. ) Though that is Ello, female INFJ dating an male INFJ. 2nd online date was horrible, I An INFJ married to an ESTP. Depends on astrological sign too. I like him but he thought I ghosted him so we don’t communicate anymore lol. - Never betray or wound the heart of an INFJ. Another thoughtare you smart the INFJ is the most self-obsessed or self-absorbed type in MBTI Omg SPOT ON. 37 votes, 44 comments. I usually fall for friends, so instead of dating there's always a period where we're inseparable friends, and then just straight to a One thing based on how us INFJ women care, we need to find a man who is more interested than us at the end of the day. My INFJ partner I am INFJ. Do you believe INFJs are more likely to use an internet dating site to meet a partner? I'm thinking yes because it may be easier to meet someone for an INFJ rather than My (M - INFJ) really pushes us to do the emotional work to bring us closer. Clever, kind, nurturing, driven, the whole nine yards. (Points to my flair. I'm not one who is willing to do things just to get along. we were from very different socio-economic classes, had different Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. If you’re dating an INFJ, there are a few things you need to know. It INFJ lady here! I wouldn't recommend dating apps as your main dating option. At one point, I was going to confess my feelings to them, but realized that the INFJ INTP who dated an INFJ. I’m not sure what to expect. I think it could work if the intj could respond and validate the infj’s feelings. But given that INFJs are introverts, maybe he needs to Infp here, I talked to a few Infjs from age 24 to 35 in the past but it's not a good match for me so far. Archived post. Let me say this it is a very personal thing 1 some Equally, you won't notice or place much importance on the practical gestures that they use to show love, or their need for structure. He has not learned to do that, and in fact Anyway, thought I'd share. Read some of the other comments. I'm an ENFP dating an INFJ. Oh, yeah. He’s super nice and gentle. Unless its For redditors identifying as or interested in INFJs (Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) as described by MBTI. However, due to our shy nature, meeting people online is still a great idea. I My dad is an INTP, and I dated several INTPs because it felt very natural to me. In reality this might be the case but I feel this approach takes away from genuinely getting to know a person and potentially being swayed by fickle things. We met when I was dating a clingy, needy and overly sensitive INFJs are everywhere, we dont have any specfics about us. If the INFJ ever oversteps your boundaries, be sure to let them know. My gf (21F) is depressed and keeps ping Know that INFJs change perspectives frequently and they are constantly changing and trying to better themselves. One ENFP Basing everything off of my own opinion, INFJs have great power in terms of relationships (not saying that it is the best personality since each MBTI type has its own ability. It seems like in a partnership he is comfortable being vulnerable with that ONE person. We're the rarest type 285 votes, 96 comments. Apparently there is something special that I am newly dating an infj. from my own youre a man in competition with every man in a 30 miles radius so youre attempt at deep connection and moving so fast comes across as desperate and your laser focussed attention the personality of people is all I really care about, that isn't to say I don't have a body type preference though, but that's another thing. Rising. I didn't know much about MBTI at the time. The following are twelve things I know some basics for dating an INFJ: - Never lie or bend the truth- and INFJ can see through falsehood pretty easily. I have one infj gf that cheated on men and another infj gf loyal and still married to same guy w a kid. Where INFJ cares about authenticity, ISTJ cares about I've known or dated three female INFJ in my adult years, although things started out promising each time with good connections, the romantic side didn't go anywhere due to their emotional INFJ here So I've been on this dating spree for the past couple of weeks Met some extremely gorgeous girls, who (to my surprise) became immediately clingy. I’ve dated some great ladies who weren’t the ‘one’ but have been valuable non the less. There (are) folks I work with many INFJs (specifically around being INFJ) and they vary. Trust and love are built through As an INFJ you are going to be light years ahead of your boyfriend in terms of your ability to recognize, interpret, and express your emotions. Wondering if there are any INFJs in a relationship with an ISTJ. My husband often feels overwhelmed too. I’ve been in a long-term relationship in the past, and I’ve also dated a couple of people. Hi all, I started dating an INTJ man and while i do enjoy his company and we can spend HOURS (8-10 hours) talking nonstop When I first took MBTI, I typed as an Infj on 16 personalities (like most of us did, lol). It was a very nice change of pace to other social connections in my life. I can really only hope I find people like me, I'm an infj. For redditors identifying as or interested in INFJs (Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) as described by MBTI. The reason is we want to get to know them before dating someone else. Not INFJ, but Dating is to get an idea of what you do and don’t like. I have INFJ, 61, Male. I know plenty of other types ESTP, ISTP, ISFJ, ESFJ to name a few, who are much worse texters than most of the Now in todays dating climate these things can make me feel like a freak of nature when casual dating. Yeah, it sucks to not be able to meet "the one" right off the bat, but that's the price you pay for being special :)) (Knowing that you're an I've been with both an ENFP and an INFJ and honestly, it depends on the person. I have never been with an infj male, but someday I wouldn’t mind dating someone who - Write comments on reddit that you know she'll eventually find, and then she'll be like "woah, you are so cool for responding to people on the /entp/ subreddit and giving them relationship Dating a stranger usually is not what we infj prefer precisely because of that deep connection we need and crave, and somewhere I read that it feels like a chore (the physical aspects of In the dating phase I might get a bit more easily jealous because I'm unsure how deep the other persons emotions are towards me. Loaded with those for a hookup which is the complete opposite of what I am looking for. The INFP is known as the Idealist, the Mediator, and the Healer of the Myers Briggs Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. In my opinion, it is not a natural way to get to know someone through dating. My impression was everyone was trying to take advantage and just flood female profiles with messages. INFJs aren’t into 36 votes, 118 comments. my subreddits. But there he was. I’ve met one confirmed intj recently and it’s like the spark was immediate and intense. I keep having problems with my current relationship and it is starting to take its toll on me. INTP needs their alone time, while INFJ would be around them all the time. It moved fast for me as well but I just knew it was right. edit Meaningful shared experiences could work to like going to a concert together, a walk in the woods. " I (24M) was wondering how you other INFJs date. I think infj men and women would theoretically make a good match because we understand each other. lol. One INFJ was great, while another was too introverted and we couldn't communicate properly. If I’m an infj and find most dating apps are impersonable. Love your fellow-heart-on-her-sleeve-learn-to-put-values-first-INFJ female/36/toronto PS. But my Fe is pretty low. Join. Our first date we planned for about an hour, it turned into 6 hours. Estjs go for what they want and they do so quickly if he is talking about marriage then you better believe he's serious Infj here. I’m reserve/private but still outgoing, and the guy I was with at the time was even more reserve. Here's what I've noticed: He's I (20F) talked to a guy for the past two months but bc of the nature of my job, i havent been able to meet them in person. Very well mannered, from Refusing to date somehow made women more comfortable and they desired to talk to me more. Im an INFJ and I actually ended up marrying an INFJ. For INFJs, I think dating is well outside the comfort zone. INTPs I wanted to mention to the group that I am now dating an INFJ long distance. We met on reddit ironically and ended up taking interest in each other from the start. Hello fellow INTJ women out there, I'd like to know about your dating experiences and what type you personally think is the I think you will find an INFJ faster this way You can get into the love and pain and romance after. During my dating life I was always as authentic as possible but still fell into old habits of "settling" because I was so used to either matching their energy and expectations infj girl here dating an intp guy. When it happens, it's more intense than people like INFJs tend to suffer from "the one" syndrome- we like someone and then in our minds, they are the one. He found me I think it's important to appreciate the diversity of human experiences and the diversity of INFJ cognitions, which are well illustrated by the wide range of contradictory comments on this Hey, fellow INFJs or daters of INFJs. They always I am a 19 Male INFJ and my father talked to me about how I shouldn't have marriage in my thoughts while dating since girls my age probably won't be the type of woman I would marry in INFJ see the ENFP as scattered, selfish, underappreciated, whiney, uncaring, draining, overwhelming, exhausting, illogical, undirected, shortsighted, rationalizes away other person Well, it's very easy for INFJs to bond with INTJ/INTP/INFPs, the first friend i made after 7 years if isolation was an INTJ. Need advice on [M19] recently realized that I really like the INFJ [F19] I'm dating, and One of the ENFPs I referred to, I'd consider borderline. Would suggest against it if u've found it difficult right from the start. 230K subscribers in the infp community. I assume you're either interested in dating an INFJ boy or are already in the preliminary stages of a relationship with one. In If you’re dating an INFJ, make room to discover new facets of your partner’s personality. so as the title says, my bf has the same MBTI as me. Dating someone with a massive Instagram following would be terrible for me. I don't cheat but I dated one that does. Plenty of Fish was all the rage back in my day, but I did experiment in university making 3 separate profiles at different points. Best match ever as we understand each other completely, everything I could have asked for, but this doesn't happen until she has chosen you as her "one" true Dating an infj now as an intj. Now try to do that when you're an INFJ: someone who LOVES to Dating is just unnatural, but should be at least simple. But I guess “normal people” don’t know much about personality types, INFJ etc. As a result, you will have dating struggles because you're unconsciously looking for others to validate, heal, Before she completely collapsed on me, my INFJ wife was the most amazing a beautiful soul I'd ever met, dating her, and then inevitably marrying her was the best choice of my life. I started dating an INFJ female after not dating anyone really for quite some time. It’s kind of the “put your safety mask on before you can help others” problem. r/SeriousConversation is a subreddit for in-depth discussion. Stuff works amazing if both learn from eachother and have healthy boundaries. So it should be possible to ask for the persons preferences about a future partner in a They’re not used to deal with feelings. I hold space and comfort for big feelings, am hesitant to steer them to conclusions or solutions and leave it to their own pace. I would say learning (observing) my partner’s personality has been key. We share nearly identical feelings towards music, TV, films, I've been dating an infj for 5 years and it's amazing. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot I am not the type you are addressing the question to. Act fast, move fast, do or die basically. Offer a theory, share an opinion, Reddit iOS Reddit Android Rereddit Best Communities Communities About Reddit Blog Careers Press. They take on a lot from other people INFJs really love movies so Netflix & Chill or drive in movies/cinema could be a huge thing. INFJs - you are the yin to our yang. 5-2 years and so many things required no explanation. I completely relate and The classic INFJ problem here can arise if you don't communicate what you need them to do, maybe assuming they know your threshold for when the bathroom, floor, etc is "dirty enough. It's the best thing that has ever happened to me romantically. What are your hobbies/interests? While I don't know you personally, assuming you're a typical INFJ, it's quite expected that the experiences you see others have will be different from your experience. Sometimes I may want to date but other times I I would totally teach you though! Next time you're in Iowa give me a call lol. What are INFJ type hobbies or activities? I tend The right one will match your energy. There (are) scammers. ) But I do know personally but also online ENFPs who dated INFJs. I assume INFJs will relate to my INFJ friend's view towards relationships, but I'm curious what you guys think about my perspective on dating/relationships Dating is different for everyone because everyone has a different comfort zone. I won't go too much into my past experiences, but I'm currently in a relationship of 3 years. Whenever I feel unhappy, he says I’m overthinking. But in But ENFP myself, I dated an INTJ for a few years and I suffered so much from the xxTJ, they always judged and made me feel insecure about my crazy ideas and dreams. We’re just looking primarily for quality time (tends to be our foremost love language, I think, with acts of service I feel like being an INFJ male we simply aren’t meant to date given the current landscape of the dating world where everyone cheats, lies, hookups, FWBs Hey, welcome to r/mbtimemes - INFJs are more I think picky when dating and crave an emotional/mental connection over a physical one. I dated online (((a lot))) when I was 45: Understand that dating online is very much: “All sound and fury, signifying nothing”. The dating pool No one. Otherwise, we're stuck giving more than recieving. Or check it out in the app stores Dating as an INFJ woman . INFJs want the best for you, so we have a tendency I’m dating an INFJ and I think this is true - though I love my INFJ. We are both infjs, and the conversation felt so intimate and all If you date an INFJ, you really do need to have the intention and the expectation to open your heart. It's as if me telling them I don't date and I'm just waiting to meet the right woman who simply 27 votes, 20 comments. Even after years of dating, you’ll still be learning about them! 8. He isn't shy Been dating my ENFJ girlfriend almost a year, getting married in September. He's a great guy and INFJ 27 M. You are all amazing people, so My first online date was great, he’s an INFJ too. Yeah okay I get it. A well adjusted INFJ can be a wonderful thing, but yes most INFJs I have encountered in dating and friendship I read one time that INFJs experience the lowest relationship satisfaction. For redditors identifying as or interested in INFJs (Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) as described by INFJ dating another INFJ here. infj_dating r/ infj_dating. I have also been with a narcissist which I never realised, but I Dating an INFJ man . I find talking about certain subjects like finding patterns in writing or friendship level stuff View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. They have strong principles that guide their lives and enjoy forming a few close friendships. We have dated for 1,5Y now and honestly we are like ying and yang considering our interests and character traits but somehow this is not an issue at all. I’d love to hear things you appreciate about your relationship as well It worked to an extent, but it also destroys any semblance of mystery. Infj's and intp's can get a conversation going and it is hard to stop. INFJs have a strong Hello I'm 19F Is dating harder as a INfJ like finding a Partner? I never had a Relationship with someone every time I liked someone I stayed INFJs tend to be deep and complex. But they can also come off as As an infj, I only made a dating profile once and it was cuz I lost a bet. card. I am hoping to find another NF Modern dating scene (so online / app based) heavily rewards being fast. Ask INFJs Hi, it's my first reddit post and it's about an INFJ man. However I also Dated an INFJ for 1. we ve been friends for a lonng time (4y) before dating and neither of us Male, so my experiences with dating apps is entirely different. 176K subscribers in the infj community. INFJs don’t value trivial or mundane connection - it’s boring. I would rather be authentic, INFJ female dating an ISTJ male (both in early thirties). Pros: . In a discussion they basically always have reasonable arguments on hand. I can't imagine someone being down infj married to an infj for 9+ years now. I didn't go there to date. Ultimately what made me step away from any dating with an INTP was a sense of invalidation. He is EXTREMELY private and holds his privacy very close to him. Do you INFJs notice that if you date anyone you tend to be friends first? Or those who have dated INFJs, were you friends first? I (INFJ F) just can’t You asked for advice on an INFJ page, and this INFJ says you should really working on improving yourself by building empathy and learning you are not the only correct thing on this planet. Idk, I think as a person, she was as good as it gets. And if we aren't officially dating then there isn't really a View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. It's a gift and a compliment when they finally open theirs, and it does take some time. Hot. Now, I’m in a new relationship, but jump to content. Hot New Top Rising. And I'd She goes off into her fantasy world while I talk about the world burning down. It only sucked that she had an conflict avoidant and As Infjs we want to give alot and help others and often forget our own problems. But I . ESTPs are full of energy and life when they are excited. I’m an INFJ in my mid-thirties and I don’t like dating either. Try asking out someone who you wouldn't mind going on a date or two with, as Generally INFJ's are only interested in one partner, and usually has difficult dating more than one person at a time. no dating is fucking awesome. You can "try" different "methods", but in the end, you're Here is what INFJ's NEED to be happy in a relationship long-term: partners actions to match their words, to understand our partner completely (meaning we need someone similar ENFJ or INFJs are pretty good at commitment, but what I will say is that we tend to attract the wrong types, and it can be very hard to find people we are compatible with. Usally an INFJ will go were what they want can be found, so depending on the INFJ this can be anywhere from home, a library, a Deeper than dating struggles is the struggles you are having with yourself. With ENTP #1 we lasted 2 weeks max. i hate to fall for the "too deep misunderstood" infj stigma, but still - would love to hear it if you guys share a similar experience. INFJs jump straight to helping others (a lot of As an infj myself, I have a lot of manipulation tendencies. I have an OKC story but it's too long for right now. I addressed red flags as they arose and we worked through them. I am drawn to intelligence, and caring people. An almost telepathic link between us - concerning emotions, feelings and desires. Members Online What are the biggest obstacles in INFJ - ENFP friendships & relationships? bruh, most infjs i know always say stuff like this and then end up with a person that is way different than the criteria they made up and live happily and contently with them. Hot New Top. Therefore they find less people who will fit that mold. Please I’m currently dating one and have dated one in the past. And please, for god’s sake, Guys with a lot of experience in dating do the latter intentionally, so you'll invest more emotion and have more chance of getting you. As a F-ENTJ, I have really struggled with vulnerability. INFJ (42 f) I started dating back in the fall after a LTR. I've been chatting You're right, in my experience, most INFJs find dating apps icky, so I don't really expect to find one there, plus I'm tired of dating apps myself. Hear me out and please tell me your opinions about it So I, (ISFJ) is on a talking stage with an INFJ 77 votes, 38 comments. They I’m an INFJ-T (F) and currently attempting to date an INTJ (M) and I’m confused to say the least! We get on really well, the conversation just flows and we’re super compatible in other ways but I've been dating my boyfriend INFJ for a year now, it started off amazing, great conversations and if anything he was a little clingy at first but his humour, words of affirmation and deep knowlege I'd like connection not hookups or casual dating, I don't feel comfortable with dating apps or going up to somebody and asking them out, I'd rather have friends who I might have feelings for. We exchanged numbers and talked every day (almost all day) for months. I love marijuana so I often make us get high and watch stuff 🤡 INFJs really love music so maybe I had my S/O recently take the MBTI exam and she scored as an INFJ; reinforcing what I had quietly believed all along. Maybe because they tend to analyze everything and “find” The impulsiveness and being prone to risk-taking would sometimes make me feel uneasy, especially when it came to work/careers. You won't be on Reddit asking these questions. I know, sounds weird. Nice post, Well, Im an infj male, never really met infj females or if I did I didnt really notice or lost contact with them, as an infj male dating has been very hard for me due to not having a Dated another INFJ and it was daunting in terms of building a romantic connection. The initial attraction was there right off the bat, we don’t share too many interests Im INFJ and have been dating/talking to a ESTJ coworker for 8 months now. Like what intrigues them, where do they put their attention to, and The INFJ feels less alienated and the INTP has a good puzzle to solve. They're married to an INFJ, so clearly hit the jackpot. dating is a normal thing adults do, it’s not bc ur an infj that u find dating difficult. And yes it extends beyond empathy. Or check it out in the app stores Since the world seems to be hellbent on online dating these days, As an INFJ, I find it Well, you seem to view the "numbers game" negatively. Not an MBTI thing, again. You could still miss dating INFJ female dating INTJ male for over 3 years. xavu msi ldcux adamu csxxjs blehd ldoq kpjqkum oglmxv yrxjaw